Four layers. One brotherhood. Go as deep as you want.
This is the front door. No signup, no commitment, no faith content. Just men doing things together.
Monthly men's breakfast. One book. Honest conversation over eggs, bacon, and strong coffee. This is where men who showed up to an outing start going deeper — without pressure.
Broken Boy to Mended Man
by Joe Hayes — A raw look at how father-wounds shape men, and how healing actually works.
Most men who enter the 8-week core first came to a breakfast. It's the natural bridge between “I went to a cookout once” and “I'm ready for something real.”
Eight men. Eight weeks. One mentor. Real conversations about identity, masculinity, wounds, addiction, relationships, work, faith, and what comes next.
Who am I? Whose am I?
Activity
Cookout / fire-pit dinner — everyone introduces themselves with one sentence about their dad
Action step
Write one paragraph: who would I be if I weren't afraid?
Resources
What is a man for?
Activity
Service project (Habitat / Catholic Charities / parish maintenance)
Action step
Identify 3 men you admire and write one sentence why
Resources
Where did I get broken?
Activity
Group hike / long drive in pairs
Action step
Letter to your father (not necessarily sent)
Resources
What is owning me?
Activity
Shotgun-shooting or trades-work outing
Action step
Name one habit pattern and one specific tripwire (HALT)
Resources
Who am I for?
Activity
Cook a meal together for the next week's group
Action step
Initiate one repair conversation (mom, dad, sibling, ex, friend)
Resources
What am I building?
Activity
Tour of a trade shop, construction site, or apprenticeship hall
Action step
Identify next 30/60/90-day career step + one person to ask for help
Resources
If I'm honest, who is Jesus to me?
Activity
Adoration / quiet hour / parish walk-through with the mentor
Action step
Pray one sentence, daily, for 7 days
Resources
What's next?
Activity
Service project + closing dinner with mentors and family
Action step
Choose: continuation track, peer-triad track, or alumni-mentor track
Resources
Identity precedes masculinity because a man who doesn't know who he is can't know what he's for. Wounds precede addiction because most addiction is self-medication for unnamed wounds. Relationships precede work because work that isn't ordered to anyone is hollow. Faith arrives at week 7 because by then the mentor has earned the right to be heard on the deepest questions. Service in week 8 closes the loop: you came in looking, you leave by giving.
The 8-week core is the beginning, not the end. After you finish, you choose how to keep going.
Monthly cohort meeting + quarterly retreat + ongoing 1:1 with mentor (12-month commitment)
Weekly self-led peer-triad meeting + bi-monthly check-in with cohort lead (lower-touch)
For men who've done 12+ months in continuation and are ready to mentor next year's cohort
Once you're in, you're in. The door stays open.
Every mentee gets paired with a trained, vetted mentor. These are men who've been through the program, completed Virtus safe-environment training, passed background checks, and committed to showing up.
“I showed up to shoot clays because it was free. Nine months later I have a mentor, a career plan, and brothers who actually know me.”
“I signed up to give back. What I didn't expect is how much the brotherhood would give back to me.”
Fort Collins, Loveland, Greeley, and the Front Range. Outings across the region. Cohorts at local parishes. Brotherhood wherever you are.
Start with an outing. No pressure. No agenda. Just good men.